As you get older, you will experience an increase in responsibilities that will begin weighing more heavily on your shoulders. While these changes are an exciting transition into new stages of life, they can occasionally feel burdensome as feelings of overwhelming happiness, fear, heartache, and loneliness weave together and blur the lines between each individual emotion. This makes it difficult to separate these feelings in an attempt to conquer them independently.
When difficult emotions arise, it not only affects the person, it affects their relationships as well. If not addressed, these emotions can cause serious implications between a person and their family and friends – and, more specifically, with their significant others.
When you find yourself under the weight of pressure, it is imperative that you learn how to properly cope with your different emotions:
Allow yourself to fully feel the emotion.
You may think you are already doing this since you currently feel angry or depressed, but you most likely try to escape from your current state as quickly as possible – no one prefers to feel those negative emotions. However, it’s important that you allow yourself to truly feel through the emotion instead of pushing it away.
Separate yourself from your emotions.
Your emotions do not define you, they are just a part of life that requires your attention every now and then. If you identify yourself with your emotions, it is much harder to separate yourself from them when they are in full force. Be aware of their presence, but detach yourself from them as quickly and as often as possible.
Try to identify the triggers of your emotions.
Don’t try to do this in the heat of the moment because it will be difficult to try to deal with your current state of mind while also analyzing the reason for why you feel this way. Once the emotion has subsided, take the time to think back to what triggered the feeling. Why did it cause this reaction? Is it something that can be avoided in the future if you can just adjust your mentality? These questions may not be fun to work through, but this change in perspective will help to reduce how intense these emotions will feel in the future, making them easier to process.
If you can be more in tune with yourself, approaching every situation with mindfulness and the necessary attention, it will show itself in your relationship with your significant other. Instead of going from bad to worse, you will have more control in how the situation will play out because you will be better equipped to work through these difficult emotions before approaching your partner.
If you both approach life this way, it is going to positively show itself within your relationship!